How To Deal With My Child’s Rebelliousness?

by | Mar 25, 2021 | Blog | 0 comments

Pic of a teenager lost looking at Ferris Wheel

Are you one of the parents:

1. who say the same: “Oh Teenagers are all like that. They go through puberty hormonal change hence the drastic “Turbulence”.

2. who gets frustrated because you seem to lose the skillset to control your child as they grow older.

3. Who has zero tolerance for most of the things your child does.

4. Nothing seems to be right no matter what you say and in spilt seconds, energies are tensed rolling out heated argument, cold war or fights with your child. Cannot and do not have the know-how to communicate with your child further.

5. Etc…

 

May I remind you that COMMON does not mean it is NORMAL. The easiest way out is to “shift blame” and always pinpoint others’ problem than SELF.

Ever wonder why the above? The child was all ok until a certain age they started to rebel and seemed like a dormant volcano that erupted with no return! Many started to understand about life better and “transformed” after certain molding lessons.

What if I say you have unconsciously and unknowing cause the undesirable episode?

 

1 of 2 How about as parents, we try to recall, self-check and review the relationship between each other at different stage of your marriage life?

Pic of a couple with new born baby

The timeline and extensive of rebelliousness are measured in tandem WHEN the couple started:

6. having their differences.

7. Started to turn each other’s suggestions or options into deaf ears since frequencies don’t sync.

8. Always think you are right and never tried supporting his/ her decision/ ideas. When it didn’t work out, instead of going through it together thick and thin, you started sneering in your heart, “serve you right for not listening to me. You deserve it.”

9. Started to go into heated disagreement, arguments, fights etc.

10. Cannot talk harmoniously for a mere 10mins.

11. Cannot see eye to eye of each party’s perspective.

12. Confidence turned into EGO with a defensively independent personality.

13. Strong YIN energy (mommy) seemingly gets different forms of growths on the vehicle because they are generally more emotional and have issues letting go once hit with something that does not go their way—big issues of managing expectations.

14. Etc…

Learn to manage expectations to manage emotions effectively. When we are mindful and  take control of our emotions, we recover quicker than anyone to avoid causing”internal injuries” to our vehicle. 

2 of 2 Inner wellbeings, also known as YIN energies, is the most important yet difficult to manage. It is more than a detox program. Usually lie dormant but erupt with cruelty when time is ripe. 

Pic of Universe or Planet

What are the common mistakes most couples made?

i. Fear to face the truth and reality due to face & monetary values

ii Instead of “peeling” and looking for the WHY inwardly, they use a “lie” to cover another,
iia. How many couples tried “MAKING USE” of the idea of have a child in hope to lessen the stress & tension between them,
iib. When going through months and years of emotional upheaval and conceive a baby, be prepared to let your offspring re-enact your inner wellbeing.

iii. Did not put a stop to the negative and unhealthy tension but carried forward and live by the day in hope one day inner voice is being heard.

iv. Did not initiate to make an effort for couple honeymoon conversation. Never seem to have a good heart to heart chat in a nice ambience to iron issues out right from the beginning but accumulated displeasure over the years and “explode” once and for all.

v. Lack of knowledge and in total ignorance to the seriousness of aftermath issue in due time.

vi. Did not compliment and complement each other enough. Take each for granted. None of the parties feel appreciated.

vii. Since everyone has enough on their plate, did not have the spare energy/ time to communicate more and ASSUME the other party understand him/her inside out?!

viii. Etc…

 

Reminder to check & review:

A. How many own siblings can align and gel 24/7 STAYING TOGETHER? Let alone 2 coming together with different culture and backgrounds. So much to gear and align.

B. Did this even occur to you even before you thought of marrying;

B1. Were you rushing to marry due to peer pressure?

B2. Escape of some form of loneliness? 

B3. Finding someone to fill the void created by SELF over time, at the point of marrying? And/ or

B4. Did you marry out of pique and to prove something?

Truthfully and earnestly recall what was your your core intent back then? 

Your Energy Groomer,

#rebellious #energy #energies #consciousliving #void #loneliness #SELF #excuse #marry #couple #teenager

 

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